It’s been 2 years since I lost Ami. I struggled a lot and went through emotional turmoil until I started documenting my grief on a blog and it helped me to channelise my emotions I was not able to speak about. Most of the days I am happy, go getter, strong and someone who is…
Mom guilt
A very good advice I heard today is: If you feel like you’re handling each area imperfectly, you’re probably juggling all of them perfectly. I don’t subscribe to the idea that you can’t have it all. We need not to be perfect because no matter how hard we try to be best at everything sometimes your…
Down the memory lane
Today I was browsing through my old books and I got my hands on one of the book which I took from Karachi with me. I opened that old book, smelled dusky like an attic room of our house- Nostalgia hit me so hard and it took me few minutes to come back in reality. I…
My life as being myself
Sundays are the days when we love to unwind, watch movie and spend family time together.These days when we are working from home and kindergartens are closed, house can’t be spick and span. I have lowered my bars and trying to involve all of us in house chores. I still remember my mother as a…
Marriages are decided in heaven but broken on earth
Have you heard what you throw into the universe, comes back to you magnified!! The other day I heard the discussion on how desi marriages are not the same anymore and the divorce rate is so high as compared to the last generation. The irony is no one can understand that Women refuse to be treated…
Failure is a way to success
Passing many Salesforce certification exams have been a big accomplishment and lot of hard work!I had been working on a goal to get on a track of ”Certified Salesforce Application Architect“ that required to pass 5 certifications in total and I had been rolling well on a track from last year and yesterday was my…
Relationship spark
You loved each other once, you were in love, you got married and many years passed by …and life is monotonous, life is a routine, you feel tired, you feel all consumed with chores. You go through old pictures and you see ; love, romance and liveliness. You think: where is the long-lasting spark? Why…
Reconnecting to old me..
There are times when we try returning to hobbies we enjoyed in the past. Trust me having a hobby that we enjoy brings us joy and enriches our life. I started doing calligraphy again! Yes, I used to do it in the past and gave a few as gifts and sold a few in Germany…
Rape Culture
As a young Karachite girl in her early twenties I remember how worried my mother used to be whenever I drove late in the evenings. My Father had given me immense confidence and independence when I was growing up. I could drive alone as soon as I turned 18 and had my license. He kept…
Misogyny in marriages
There are two types of #marriages mostly women suffer from; one with a dominant man where the women are less educated and mostly suffer because of lack of opportunities, education and family support. A woman who is told at the time of marriage that you are leaving your parent’s house only your dead body will…
About my creative self..
I met my school friends after like 18 years at a whatsapp group and many of them thought I would have graduated either from Indus Valley or studied Media Arts. My Computer communication degree took them by surprise and I told them “Abu advised me an important lesson just before starting my professional career that…
Am I superior than others?
When the whole world seems upside down with hatred, pandemic and much more. Where do I find the ray of hope, the ray of positivity? Its been more than 3 months when my preschooler son is home and he is inquisitee, ask questions, wants to know more. His focus is shifted from ‘I’ to ‘I…
Another Mother’s day..
Mother’s Day is complicated for me now because all the women who hurt on mother’s day: I feel you, I see you, I see your discomfort , I see your sorrow. I know how it feels like I don’t want to scroll through perfect happy pictures of other mothers showering their love and prayers because…
Cinderella Effect
A first Monday morning of the month and that was her first day in new class. She was a small girl who was always scared of changes. She entered her classroom with wobbly legs and would cry out a river sitting in the corner of her desk. She would dream Mommy is around and her…
The success barometer
We shouldn’t use others as barometer of our success. My life is different than yours and vice versa.In past, I remember I had so much resentment when I practically lost 2 promotions within 3 years of my career. 1 year in pregnancy plus 1.5 year for maternity leave and another 6 months to ramp up…
Work Life and what balance?
It‘s time to strike out the word “work Life Balance” from the vocabulary. There is no work life balance most importantly after Covid. Last night I was again sleep deprived as a result of 7 years old who is in quarantine and thinks why is he house arrested and not able to play outside with…
Can Women be perceived same as Men in Lead roles?
When I was starting new work project, I was very much motivated, excited and still am. I know it will be very hectic yet there will be a huge learning curve for me. I was happy to take on a challenge and did my complete homework before jumping into cold water. I am working these…
You are never too old to learn
A very funny yet thoughtful message I received yesterday “Are you still studying?and why are you wasting your energy in studying so hard when you already have career?“ I found it funny because I remember as a kid when I had my first board examination in claSs 9th and I was always motivated to work…
Working from home is not my cup of tea
These days people have my respect about how they can manage everything at home while working professionally too and I love seeing such resilient mothers and fathers everyday at work calls. I learnt many new things in this time. We have started to share a lot about our private lives which was not the case…
The process of happiness
Enjoy the process towards happiness and the journey becomes automatically exciting. I love to keep things simple, easy to manage and yet enjoyable. Today myself and Zayaan baked a simple cake for my husband’s birthday. He picked a beautiful coffee mug on Amazon for his Baba and we ordered it. Luckily just before birthday it arrived…
I miss you MA
Oh Ma! It‘s an year since I lost you, last year this time I got the news you are no more! I am stronger than I thought I was; Watching someone like you who was strong become weak and bedridden, suffer and eventually drift away ate us internally every day. Last year, I spent two…